Do you want to know how to let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you in 30 days using a simple proven 3 step strategy ? You’ve found the perfect resource to help you.
After reading this post, you will be able let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you and I mean any one whom you’d once felt attracted to in the past under 30 days.
Disclaimer: I wrote this article for men seeking to let go of women. Nonetheless, if you are a woman, the steps outlined in this post will also work for you.
Lets begin the journey of letting go …
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How to let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you: Introduction
There are three stages and process to let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you, I’m actually going to give you tips that you can use after reading this post so make sure you read till the very end.
The tips that I’m giving you are transformational tips and stages as well that can help you manage your thoughts, your mindset and really check in towards if this is a good and healthy relationship for you but ultimately when this happens I want you to be able to not re-attract something like this again.
I want you to really self diagnose yourself after you read this article, for those of you that are reading this blog post right now that are just simply In need of a way to get her out of your head and let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you this is going to help you as well.
So let’s get into the three steps to let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you.
How to let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you: Steps to Follow
The wake-up call
In stage one, It’s kind of like you got to wake up, what I mean by this is that you have to really dissect the reasons of why you are attracted to this woman in the first place.
Was she just giving you company ? was she a beautiful woman ? was the sex great or what superficial things are you attaching to right now and I say superficial things because of this is how I would self diagnose you and ask you what is it that is driving you crazy about this woman.
It could be that you have never felt like this before with a woman, that you have never encountered a woman like this before and we’re going to go into that in the next steps.
Some tips in regards to this is:
a. Stop denying your feelings
You have to stop denying the feelings that you probably have for this person because what happens is when you deny a feeling that you have for someone, typically what happens is you start to not understand the difference between infatuation and having a healthy balance of thoughts for this person.
When you deny it you’re really not showing up for yourself and obviously that’s what I want you to do.
So don’t deny it if you are there and saying oh I’m not going cry about this or I’m not going to show any emotion around this because I’m a man and I’m strong, no!.
Whatever you do in your own home by yourself is fine but in some way you have to let the emotions out.
Don’t hold them in because it’s just going to hold a lot of of anger in there and I want you to show up in the best way possible for the future woman that is in your plan.
b. Understand that you deserve better
So, if you want to let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you even if you did mess up, you have to ask yourself questions like what were the lessons that you intentionally have learned from this ? and if you didn’t mess up that’s okay too.
Get to accept that you deserve better, train your mind to know that you deserve better. Let me give an illustration, so if all of a sudden she just ghosted you or she disrespected you at one point or she’s placing fingers at you and you tried everything that you can to make her happy, you deserve better.
Ultimately love is not about oh I’m going to give, give and give in hopes that this person is going to finally see whom I am, see my true colors.
It doesn’t work like that, it’s like I always say, dating is like a tennis match, you go back and forth, you give and get.
You get and you give ,it’s like you have to reciprocate and I say this so much especially in the dating phase but I want to just reiterate on this.
It’s like when you’re dating, people like tend to go in a hundred percent or fifty percent but I recommend that in a relationship it should be 50/50 only when there’s commitment.
But when you’re dating it should be around 20 to 30 percent of giving and the person should be doing the same thing as well, that’s how you create boundaries which makes a woman addicted to you.
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Sounds counterintuitive right ? sure, you see when it comes to the battle of the sexes been logical doesn’t get you anywhere as a man.
Nothing makes a relationship boring as been too logical and predictable , after reading this eBook you will find out that when it comes to women the more f*ck you give, the less f*ck you will get.
c. Think of her worst quality
You will agree with me that when you are trying to get over someone, it’s really easy just to think about every feeling that you’ve received from them and how much you like them and how much passionate you are around them but think about the worst characteristic that this person brought to your life.
Maybe it was drama, maybe it was disrespect, maybe it was a lack of integrity.
Well what is that and think about that because what happens is when we go through heartbreak we think about all the great stuff.
We are our own worst critics, I know this may sound counter-intuitive but if you want to let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you , you have to balance your thoughts.
Think of their worst qualities.
Out of sight out of mind
If you have to delete them off social media or just ghost them off social media or not even go on social media right now that is your time to not do this.
Don’t do the social media thing and stalking their accounts seeing who they’re hanging out with, going to their friends pages as well to see if she’s on there who she’s hanging out with.
Don’t even spend your time doing that right now because this is not going to help you let go of that person.
whatever they do on their free time is whatever they do on your free time your your their free time.
You are your own individual and that’s all that you have to be accountable for.
Also, if you tend to possibly go to the same places like a gym or something like try to engage in another gym in the meantime until you have been able to resurface with your emotions and say I’m over this woman, I’m okay and then you can start slowly encountering each other once again.
If it’s something like school and work, I totally understand you can’t dismiss it but here’s my advice on this, if it’s school or work and you see this person often is to not really pay any attention to them like not even give them a piece of mind, don’t even look in their vicinity.
Don’t even look in their distance because you have to focus on you, so use some of the tips that I told you in tip one.
if this is a woman that you see every once in a while at work or at school and things like that but if you cross each other’s paths every once in awhile try to do different things so you don’t until your heart is healed.
Last tip in this stage is if that there is that if there is a certain actively let’s just say every night you guys at 9 p.m. watched Grey’s Anatomy or say another hit show and this is going to remind you of her when you watch the program, just click record and don’t even come to the program that is going to remind you of her, what you guys used to do and those type of things.
Also if there is like something that the both of you used to do or a routine, get away from that routine a little bit and try another routine.
it’s like every morning you guys meet at Starbucks at 9:00 a.m. don’t go to Starbucks at 9:00a.m. anymore, get an espresso machine make it at home.
for the time being you’ve got to acknowledge the fact that you can’t stick to the same routines because it’s just going to bring up the relationship again and you have to give yourself time to heal or you risk bringing up the woman again.
Even if it wasn’t a relationship or someone you where dating, the reason why I say this is because in time you can go back to these activities of course because as time goes on you heal your heart.
Just because you can’t do these activities now doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to do ithem later down the line.
Make sure you emphasize on me-time and doing stuff or you
What are the things that you stopped doing altogether ?
I was talking to a client today and he said that he reads my blog a lot, especially posts where I emphasize how important it is to find your purpose and that he just started teaching himself how to golf.
In his words:
“I went the other day to learn how to horseback ride, went the other day to go shooting, I went the other day to do so many things and I have been so happy.
I’ve never been this happy.”
It was so amazing to hear that because I write a lot about this on how to find your purpose because I have people asking me like how do I find my purpose ? so I write about that a lot and why that’s so important, what’s important too is that you spend your time alone because that’s the only person that you really have a hundred percent of the time, all the time and if you’re not okay with being alone then you’re not going to be okay in a relationship eventually.
Either spending your meantime doing the things you love, cooking at home may be treat yourself, get some wine as you cook, putting on some music and just getting the vibe and just understand and don’t put any pressure on what is to come in the future and be okay with your present moment.
Tip number two on this stage is kind of the same, it’s doing what you love but also to spend time with the people that you love.
so if you are in a funk right now and it’s hard for you to get out of this funk, spend time with people that you love.
not people that are going to increase your bad habits but people that you actually love that bring you up.
either you’re with your best friend, your mother, go take a trip somewhere and go visit a friend that you haven’t seen but talk on the phone with all the time.
this is going to help when it comes to how to let go of someone you love who doesn’t love you.
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