How to get her back after she has moved on is a question you as a man is asking when you want to get back a girl you had something with that went soar down the line.
In this blog post I will give you 5 non-needy moves you can start making today that will get your ex crawling back to you even after she has moved on.
How to get her back after she has moved on: Introduction
A lot of times once we’ve had time to really clear our heads after making some rash decisions we might think that maybe our rash decision was the wrong decision therefore a lot of times you might find yourself thinking like oh no I think I messed up I should get my ex-girlfriend back or ex whatever.
Maybe y’all were talking for a little bit, texting here and there either way that’s going to help you get that girl swing it on back to your bedroom and happily staying there and coming back thereafter.
Okay so let’s cut to the chase!
How to get her back after she has moved on: 5 non-needy Moves
- Let her go
If you’re the type of guy that’s like oh my god no don’t go! Ah! look come on like I’ll do whatever you want like I’ll change, I swear like oh my god we could be friends whatever just oh my god don’t go, if you’re that guy you’ve already f*cked yourself over because it’s women’s natural inclination to stick to our guns when somebody fights them on that position.
Not just women even men, if somebody’s trying to push us, our natural inclination is to push back.
So if you’re pushing on them telling them you’re wrong, you’re wrong we should stay together. They are going to automatically be like oh my god no! I’m right, I’m ready get the f*ck away from me.
So if she is so adamant on leaving then why don’t you just help her pack her bags not only that, give her a good send-off – oh my god I wish you well, I’ll always care about you take care, you’re going to do great in life.
There is nothing that has driven my past girlfriends faster back to their me than hearing me give a good send off.
The reason being is because if you agree with women automatically on this decision they’re going to be like – oh my god wait, like am I making the wrong decision then again pushing back on her leaving we’re going to push back and push back and push away.
However if you’re like okay I’ll lead you out of here then they are going to automatically be like wait come back.
It’s such a shock to their system when you agree with them and even wish them well in leaving that it sends a shock to their system to automatically force them to rethink that decision again because like I mentioned in one of my previous posts women have a hard time opening up and letting new guys in.
Granted the idea sounds amazing but the reality is it’s going to take some time and you the man in her life right now are the closest thing to providing her with love care and security so it’s going to force her to rethink when you’re trying to shove her out the door.
This is the first step on how to get her back after she has moved on.
After you’ve given her a good send-off hell or even if you didn’t give her a good send-off and you were begging and pleading and crying and offering all these sacrifices up for her, no contact is going to provide that same shock to her system necessary to force her to rethink not having you in her life anymore, because women always come back.
It is our human tendency to go back to what we know to retain some sense of routine in our lives and if you’ve become a sense of routine in her life, not having you for a while is going to feel extremely painful and she is going to want to come back and when you do no contact especially with her reaching out to you, what you’re doing is you’re forcing a change in her perspective of who you’ve been in her life.
The most recent perspective she has of you is that she doesn’t want to be with you anymore that she wants nothing to do with you but with 30 day no contact what you’re doing is you’re forcing her to remember all these other good things about you, you’re forcing her to remember the times you were loving, the times you were caring, the times you were a man that she could depend on while she’s sitting here in isolation no longer having that from you which then brings me to what you’ll be doing during no contact which is number three.
Get back to you and what makes you best
A lot of times we tend to lose ourselves in relationships, you will agree with me that a lot of our behaviors that involve becoming a better person are usually fueled by the intent to find somebody to be with because they think we’re such a great person.
That’s the reason a lot of times people gain weight in the relationships, a lot of times people stop hanging out with their friends in relationships, a lot of times they stop doing all these really cool fun awesome hobbies because we’re losing ourselves after having been found by somebody to tell us we’re great enough to not have to do all that other great anymore which couldn’t be further from the truth.
So during your 30 day no contact get back to being who you are, get back to the stuff that makes you happy, the stuff that got her to fall for you in the first place.
You probably lost sight of that guy as much as she did so why don’t you instead of sitting home jerking it all day wondering why again and when is 30 day no contact going to be over? Why isn’t she contacting me either? Go out and do something to put a smile on your face and stop waiting around for her to do it for you which then brings me nicely to number four step on how to get her back after she has moved on.
Hang out with your friends hang out with your family
Hang out with your friends hang, out with your family, get her seeing you in a good light to prove that you are still a good guy, not even just to yourself but she’s going to know too when she hears from around the way or even sees on social media that you have proof that you are still a great guy and it might have been her fault that she became such a dick.
Nothing terrifies a woman more than seeing her ex doing better than she expected him to do. She sees you out there with other girls, I mean even if you’re not dating if she sees you out there with any other females; she’s going to be like oh my god that’s my guy.
It’s the reason a lot of women won’t break up with men, is because they’re terrified that they’re going to go out and find something better and by the time she do break up with you or end things with you and see that you have done better nothing will make her run back faster which then brings me to number five step on how to get her back after she has moved on – after your 30 day no contact rule.
Show her the man that she did fall for
At this point you’re probably back to doing what really put a smile on your face. You’re probably hanging out with your friends again, you might even have some new women that are actively showing you interest in public platforms.
So you know what? f*ck all that and reach back out to her and be the fun-loving awesome guy that she knew before.
Whatever you do don’t reach out and be like hey what’s up I missed you. No! That’s the last guy you were when she last saw you.
It’s about sparking the positive energy creating a different perception of who you’ve been the last 30 days to her or the last couple god knows how long it was when she’s been thinking so low of you either way doing all five of those steps will help you get back that girl that you thought was long gone.
How to get her back after she has moved on: Conclusion
Personally, I believe you should not go back to your exes but for the sake of this blog post we don’t mind taking prisoners in.
If you have an ex that maybe she was good in bed or maybe you know she had a good personality (and you are still dating other girls which I recommend) and you still want her to chase you, it’s cool still.
I just don’t want you guys going backwards, I don’t just want you guys trying to fall in love with with a chick again after she has done you wrong but hey if she wants to be a part of your rotation why not ?
Follow the five steps discussed in this post above on how to get her back after she has moved on and watch her crawling back to you.
Meanwhile I wrote another blog post where I explain How to find out if your girlfriend is cheating on Facebook.
Go check out that post so that you can know the signs to look out for unknown to her, unconsciously to spot out a cheating girlfriend even when she thinks she’s gotten away with it.
I recommend you check out Stan Lougani’s eBook titled “How to talk to the woman of your dreams”. This eBook will help you overcome Approach anxiety which happens every time you see a girl you like.